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There is a Mother’s Day gift I wish I had the power to give to all the women I love and even to women I’ve never met. I would give them the gift of a title and all the qualifications and knowledge to go with it – “mistress of financial affairs”. Now I must admit the English language gives the term “master” a much more powerful and commanding sound of authority than “mistress” but I want my gift infused with feminine, not masculine power.
What did you learn about money from your Mother? I’m so grateful to my Mom, a fiscally prudent depression era Scot. She lived to her late 90s and raised four daughters to take an active interest in managing their own financial lives. Mom was always a believer a woman should have money to call her own and she regularly squirreled away a few dollars from the household allowance provided by my Father. Yes, he was a man of his times.
The White Knight
In my years as a financial advisor I saw women too often abdicate responsibility for their financial life. They told themselves creative stories such as “I just don’t have a mind for that stuff and my husband, boyfriend, or father just does a better job”. Some singletons believed there was a white knight out there, just around the corner, who would arrive to change or improve their financial situation. Many were understandably exhausted with all the other work and household responsibilities they carried or they felt that if they managed the day to day bill paying they could leave the big-picture financial decisions to their partner. Please don’t do it – off-load laundry or cooking or toilet bowls – never money management. A “right relationship” with money is too important – and it’s never to late to acquire it
Pick a label
We women hold many titles or labels throughout our lifetime – this month, of course, the first to come to mind is mother but we may also be a daughter, sister, wife, friend, teacher, student, employee – the list goes on and on. Continue Reading…





